November 07, 2014

Outgrowing Favorite Bloggers


I feel like blogging is a journey. When we first started this blog, it was all about introducing ourselves to readers and trying to "meet" as many people as possible. I can still remember how giddy I would feel when a blogger I admired answered an email or commented on one of our posts. I remember specifically when a blogger, who I loved, offered us a free spot on her sidebar just because she liked our vibe. I literally squealed with delight. 

I still love blogging. But now, I love it for different reasons. Back then, blogging was about getting our story out there, making connections, and I guess, "rising in the ranks". Now, blogging is about documenting our lives, our choices. It's about advocating for things we love and enjoy. It's about maintaining those connections we've fostered for so long. I won't lie and say page views and clicks don't matter to me. They do. But these days, I'm a bit more mellow in my ideas of "blogging success."
That said, I think a natural part of that progression has been a break away from blogs I used to read. It's not that these bloggers have done anything wrong. They haven't. It's just that my ideas of what makes a blog great have changed. As a result, I no longer find their content relevant to me, my life, or my choices. Over the last few months, I've found myself slowly removing blogs from various subscription lists. I'll unsubscribe from an Instagram account if I haven't felt connected to anything posted in the last 2 months. I'll take a blog off my Bloglovin' reader if I find that I'm never clicking over to actually read and instead hitting "marked as read" time after time. I'll unfollow on Twitter if a blogger is pushing products and services that just aren't relevant to our lifestyle.

Blogging is very personal. To some, blogging is a way to express "themselves." I've talked to bloggers who I think want to be that next person who is famous for nothing in particular. I've talked to bloggers who want to use their blog to bankroll an expensive shopping habit. I've talked to others who use their blog as an online diary of sorts. I've talked to bloggers who want to become Pinterest famous or who would really just like a lot of free perks. None of those things are wrong. They are just different reasons to blog and I respect that. 

However, respecting something doesn't necessarily equate to following it. And while I may unfollow a lot of my old blog favorites as I evolve in my own right, I know that I will always occasionally drop back in just to say hi, to see where life is taking them, and to wish them well. Likewise, I know plenty have likely "outgrown" our blog in the past year or so and I hope they too will occasionally stop back by just to see how life is treating us. 

I hope I am always growing and thus, I hope my taste in blogs continues to change with time. I hope yours changes too. Growing together is always the best option, but I know it isn't always possible. But growing apart doesn't mean that we can't maintain some connection. So whether you are a loyal reader, an occasional reader, a new reader, or a long-gone reader stopping in to say hi -- know that the "florkens" are growing with you, even if it isn't always in the same direction.

26 comments :

  1. I have outgrown a ton but I am also finding more I like that fit me now.

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  2. So true. I find now that I read the blogs that relate to my life or people i know personally and less the ones that are constant sponsored content or random posts just for the sake of posting. Its been fun watching Adam and you grow in this blogging world. Hope you have a good day with that gorgeous office view. Gotta love a law office with a view.

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  3. Ohh this is a tough topic. We often feel so loyal to bloggers we have invested so much time in, but as we grow and they grow we can grow apart...it's hard to separate but I think sometimes it's needed. I hope you know that I've been sticking around and am in it for the long haul!

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  4. I completely agree! When I started blogging, I only read really big bloggers, which probably helped me learn a little bit about blogging, but then as I made connections with other bloggers, I realized that I wanted to read the blogs of the people who read my blog. I can't read everything, so some go out of rotation, which I think is totally natural.

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  5. I try to do that every few months - reevaluate if I visit when I see a post in BlogLovin' - if not, its time to move on. It's the ones that make real connections that I'll always stick with faithfully...
    I appreciate this post. Everyone & everything changes :) Always new people to meet out there.

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  6. This is so true and something I'm starting to notice, too. I have so many blogs on my Bloglovin' roll that just don't speak to me anymore. I really want to go through and clean it up so that I can invest more in those blogs I feel a connection with. I think it's interesting the way blogging is evolving. There are just more kids on the block, so it takes more time to find those you want to hang out with. Sometimes I'm overwhelmed with the sheer number of blogs and the fact that I don't feel pulled into many of them. Thanks for giving me the push I needed to make some changes:) Hope you both are having a great day!

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  7. What a great perspective - I always battle with wanting to be "real" but not wanting to put too much out there, especially as my employers read my blog!

    xx Kelly
    Sparkles and Shoes

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  8. I really like how you phrased this. Without realizing it, I had done an awful lot of this, too. There are some bloggers who I unfollowed on Bloglovin, but kept following on Twitter, and sometimes I'll go read posts of theirs. I've outgrown the majority of their posts, but there are a couple a month that I like and want to read.

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  9. This is one of the most legit blog posts of all time ever!
    There was a time when I viewed some bloggers as celebrities, I adored their blog so much, and now I'm so over it and couldn't care any less. There were some bloggers that I thought I had developed a friendship with because we connected on so many levels, but we're now more of the "just stopping in" type. There are some blogs that I thought were really fun and funny but now just find them to be kind of annoying. Oddly, there are even some blogs I don't like but I do like the blogger on social media. Or the other way around, love the blog but can't stand them on social media haha. The blog world is a weird place. But I absolutely could not agree with you anymore on the fact that we all change and our blogs change with us and not everyone will stick around for that. And this is coming from someone who slowly was giving up on blogging and then boom basically dropped it for YouTube haha. Now that's a change! And I know for a fact some of my most dedicated readers won't follow me on that journey because some people just don't like YouTube and I understand that. And I'm ok with it because at the end of the day, I'm growing and changing for me :)

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  10. I totally get where you're coming from. Blogs evolve and we evolve and sometimes things just aren't interesting anymore. It's tough, though. But I still make the extra effort to support and follow bloggers who have supported me as well.

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  11. I love everything about this post! I feel like I have outgrown some bloggers too and occasionally stop by too to check on them. It's true that when you change, the things you used to like reading end up changing too. Now I'm curious to see who will follow me now that I started a new blog and don't blog at my old blog anymore. So far I think a lot of people are following me again so that's always a good feeling.

    Anyway, I think you guys always do great posts and love to read 'em all the time, even though I don't comment often :) Have a great weekend!

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  12. I tend to agree with this, I see nothing wrong with it at all.

    It's part of life itself in general as well, we outgrow people in the "real world" as well for similar reasons.

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  13. This is a tough topic to talk about in blogging. I feel like I have grown apart from some blogs and really connected with some new bloggers. I've noticed that I have been unfollowing more bloggers and connecting with bloggers who write about the good and bad.

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  14. I've found I'm becoming the same way. The blogs I follow now and why I follow them are very different than when I first started. Every once in a while I go through my Bloglovin list and start cutting the ones I haven't been reading lately. As you said, it's not that they did anything wrong. They haven't! My tastes have just changed. The blogs I read regularly now are people I know and have built a relationship with, their posts relate more to my life, or I can tell they put a lot of thought into their writing.

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  15. I don't think there's anything wrong with it at all. I've done the same. Sometimes I've removed people entirely and sometimes I've just read them less. It's just like "real life"... some people aren't meant to be in it forever, or, if they are, their role in it will change. Nothing wrong with either! :)

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  16. Oh. My. Goodness. I was just thinking the same thing the other day, how my favorites aren't my favorites anymore!! I did an IG cleanup this weekend, felt good ;-)

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  17. I think that growth is SUCH an important part of life and, unfortunately, it happens at completely different times for everyone... This often means relationships change and sometimes with that change comes the realization that you aren't going n the same direction. I've never been a girl that has friends for years on end, so the process of outgrowing relationships is sort of comfortable and normal to me... That said, there are days where I remember that time and miss those most treasured moments.

    Regardless, ya'll are my favorite blogging couple in all the land ever.

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  18. I, too, have found myself disengaging from bloggers I used to love. I still drop by their blog every once in a while, but I find myself evolving and my taste in what I read and immerse myself in has changed too. It's a natural progression and it's good :)

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  19. Every time I open Bloglovin' I've got 200+ posts to read and it gets overwhelming! When I first started blogging I would get a serious case of follower's guilt and I'd return the favour if anyone followed me. I was missing great posts from blogs I really loves because they'd be lost in the posts from bloggers I never really connected with to start with... that's how I missed this one! I found it today, after deciding that I really needed to cull my list and began unfollowing those that just didn't ring true for me anymore. Thanks for making me not feel so guilty!

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  20. I'm the same, there were a load of bloggers i followed when i started but i always drop back and say hi. Its a friendship thing, I have built some great relationships since I have been blogging!

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  21. I am always following and unfollowing blogs, for various of reasons. I think it's ok - it's the same as outgrowing friends. When life changes, so do your preferences!

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  22. So true. I think we're growing and changing all the time, both in the blog world and otherwise. My friends and blog friends come and go, and there's nothing wrong with that. When I first started blogging, it was all about fashion blogs for me, and now they bore me to death. It's not that there's anything wrong with those bloggers, I'm just not interested anymore.

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  23. I completely agree. I used to follow a lot of people who were similar in terms of lifestyle, but as they've either gotten married or had children, or started getting bigger and left out more of their personal stories and now mainly do sponsored posts, I've left many behind. I don't think it's bad, I just don't have much in common with them or their lifestyle anymore so I've lost interest.

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  24. I agree wholeheartedly and I periodically purge my reading lists because it just turns into more "work" for me because I don't read a lot of certain bloggers' posts. I agree that blogging is a journey, too. :)

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  25. I agree with this too. I give some Ive outgrown a grace period or put them in another group because there was a reason I did love them and well I do love reading blogs different to mine as well but I get what you mean completely!

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  26. I've really been feeling this lately. There were some bloggers that I totally hit it off with right when I started, but increasingly I find myself less interested in their content. I just only have so many hours in the day! I definitely have some guilt, though, since they've been such a great help supporting me and we're "blogger friends." I feel bad for not commenting on most of their posts, even though they still comment on mine :(

    Cat
    http://oddlylovely.com

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