August 14, 2014

Late Night Chronicles


Late nights come in a lot of forms. 
In high school, I'd often stay up late at night dreaming of my future. I'd try to imagine what college I'd go to, what friends I'd make, what career I'd pursue, and of course, which cute boy I'd meet.

In college, my late weeknights usually consisted of a project that I put off until the last minute. I'd sit at my computer, constantly checking my style manual for citation formats and I'd swear to myself that next time... oh yes... next time.... I'd get it done sooner. On weekends, I was usually up late dancing at some house party. More accurately, I was taking care of a drunk friend at some lame house party or being said drunk friend at some lame house party. 
In law school, my late nights were usually due to stress. I'd get home late after school, work, and networking functions only to remember I had 40+ pages of cases to read for my class in the morning. I'd grab a snack and try to cram it and the 40+ pages back as quickly as possible. As a result, I'd usually end up with heartburn and worries that I'd be called on the next day and not understand the holding of the case.

Last summer, my late nights were weird. I'd stay up late upset over the impending bar exam and trying to remember if I had done everything on my checklist that week for the wedding. I'd quickly switch my brain between my Torts and Criminal Procedure outlines while also reviewing invitation lists.  Then I'd wonder why in the world I couldn't just turn it all off and get some sleep.

Lately, my late nights have been different. I spend them dreaming and talking with Adam. Just the other night, for example, we swore that we wouldn't stay up and talk as we have so many nights as of late. I came home from work around 7:30. We ate dinner, cleaned the kitchen together, and then finalized Adam's blog post. Afterwards, we played a game of Hanafuda and grabbed a quick shower before turning in.  

But then, like nearly each night in recent memory, we just talked. We talked about our future kids. We talked about our home. We talked about our families. We talked about our finances. We talked about movies. We talked about how much we loved each other. We talked about our dogs and cats. We talked about philosophy. We talked about politics. We talked about whatever happened to be on the tip of our tongues.

We laughed. We each tried to hog the bed. We stole covers and pillows. We pushed on each other and called each other names... all the while giggling like school children. And while we both knew that the minutes were ticking by and that soon the morning sun would be calling our names -- we both just soaked in the other's presence.

Finally, Adam succumbed to sleep but I laid there... dreaming again

A lot has changed since high school but I still have those late nights. But somehow, my late nights now are infinitely better because they are filled with more than just dreams. They are filled by the  stunning reality that I'm lucky enough to have stumbled across the man laying beside me. I'm not sure how it happened. I'm definitely out of the loop as to why. But he's here -- breathing deeply as I lay silently dreaming about a life where neither of us ever runs out of things to say.

12 comments :

  1. I love hope open your communication with Adam is. It's apparent that you two really get each other.

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  2. Love this. My hubby and I still do this, after almost 6 years of marriage (and 8 years of being together). Its so wonderful to have an open relationship and open communication. I love late nights like this

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  3. You guys are such a great example of what type of couple we should strive to be a part of. I hope that doesn't sound weird, hah. I just love how open and communicative and loving you guys so plainly are with (and when speaking about!) each other. It's refreshing to see these days. And I'm a BIG fan of Kay's, so glad to see her featured here today! :)

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  4. Aww, that's so awesome. Those type of late nights are the best. ;)

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  5. Recently we have had the problem of having our faces stuck in our electronics, scrolling through various newsfeeds instead of being present and talking to each other. I got tired of it, so we are trying to implement a "no electronics in bed" rule. I want to be able to have a conversation - whether it's planning our future, or reminiscing over the past week - it's important to me to be present! (PS sorry if this is a duplicate comment, I'm having trouble with my internet!!)

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  6. Oh hay hay Kay! What a great post. And a great spotlight on Krystal. I love just laying in bed and talking too. It's fantastic. Definitely a giant perk of being married, is someone who's always there to listen to you blabber on about anything and everything. Day or night.

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  7. I do the same thing with my husband, we always says it's like a slumber party every night. We've been married 9 years and every night it's the same...usually it's me saying, I have to wake up for work in 4 hours, we HAVE to get some sleep!

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  8. I think you're now at the jackpot of late nights!

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  9. First off YAYAYAY love this post! I was so surprised to scroll down and see my face haha! Thanks for the sweet words :)

    I do love staying up late (clearly - its 12:36 am) and at the still of night a lot of thoughts come! Brilliant post!

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  10. Oh Kate, this post is so beautiful. I'm in the stage of life where late nights are filled with readings for grad school and lesson planning and worrying over my students. I look forward to and sometimes spend spare moments during those nights dreaming of a day when I find someone to share them with. The love and communication that you and Adam share is so refreshing. You guys give me such hope.

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  11. This post is beautiful, and almost made me cry. Legit almost made me cry. Because I get it, I know what this feels like and it's amazing.

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